Why should I change?

I used to think I was unique and extraordinary, sure that I deserved everything and could handle any situation. But doesn't everyone have these thoughts at some point?

This was me. I was just a couple of years back when I was not what I am today. I am also amazed at how not only things, but also a person, change. The older you get, the more it seems that what was once a perfect version is now full of flaws and mistakes. Things I thought to be perfect for me, the ideologies and the visions, all turned out to be changing.

The ideals and visions I once pursued now seem less important. Gaining maturity has shown me that the image I had of myself is constantly shifting. Life has a way of quickly forcing us to reevaluate everything.

For me, in that change, there are some things I lost, not just some things, but parts of me, I thought were necessary, that are gone. This was my turning point to look at life from a different perspective.

Love and reality made me realize the importance of embracing change. Change helps us become better for ourselves and for others. Only by accepting change can we truly grow.

How can you learn something when you can't bring a change? Can you?

Is it good to walk on the same road everyone else is on, or is it better to walk on your own? The one you can own, the one you can take responsibility for?

I’ll definitely choose the first one if I were the same as I was a couple of years ago. But now it's different. I get to understand things, the reality, the delusions, and the nature. Ive started to understand them.

Love is one of the most miserable and beautiful things in life. There are millions of people who know and understand it better than I do. Who faced the bitter and suffered more? But what matters is how I think. How I proceed with things and how others look into it.

It’s not like a personal story or something, but the parts that love changed me, the way I think, the way I am now, and how I’m living. And love sure has one of the most drastic effects on me. It's not that simple to change ideologies and thoughts. It takes time, effort, patience, and consciousness.

You might have heard, though I've heard it many times, that you should choose the right person!

But how to choose? Where and how to find it? What is it that we should consider? That's never told and understood.

I think the main thing is not the compatibility, beauty, humor, cast, color, or race. It’s not having the same goals or ambitions. It's not even the love or the affection that will lead to the right person. We lose people we love; we lose the beauty. Our thoughts, visions, and priorities change.

Then what is it?

For me, it’s accepting the person as they are. It's not looking for ideals; it's looking for a person who understands, admires, walks with you, looks at the things you don’t, and makes you a better person to lead the way to a better tomorrow. It’s about growing together, not just living the moments and then turning sides, that nothing matters.

Beauty is in the heart and soul; the body is what we see. But the heart and soul are what we feel and understand. What reflects what a person truly is and how it will be in the future. Although this understanding and realization I gained came from much bigger losses. Losses I was not ready to take.

But I heard a quote: "If you seek guidance, a better future, and patience, Allah will not just shower them upon you." You will be losing things, breaking down, and passing through the ways that seem hardest. This is the way you understand the true meaning of things.

Changes are inevitable.

You need change to survive. This ability to adapt is what makes us truly human.

Change doesn't mean you are weak; it means you can live life to its fullest by having a different perspective to look at things, which will make you grow.

If you are stubborn and you are not prone to change, you will get fed up and lock yourself up in an unconscious world where you can't look beyond a certain level. This is where you will be most vulnerable. I’ve been a person as well who thought of myself as a person who should have some firm beliefs and concepts.

But now I look at things in a different way. Because I can change myself. If I don't find the person I want, I can be the person someone wants. Isn't it beautiful that you become someone whom someone desires to be with? I think we all see things to fit our thoughts, understandings, and needs.

What we forget is that the other person has their thoughts and beliefs as well. If you just make sure to fulfill the needs, it doesn't mean that it's enough.

Question yourself. Is fulfilling your basic needs enough? Don’t your needs and thoughts change? They do! Then why not others?

Around us, people are full of their own made-up beliefs, scratched from the pure and turned into benefits for themselves and into torments and traumas for others.

Is this what being a human is? Is it what being a person is? And then we say people don’t care for us. Don't they understand us? How can someone understand when you are not open to understanding things yourself?

When you are confined to the boundaries you have created, and you are stuck in them!

Being a human, I understand that it's important to bring a change in life in yourself to make other lives heaven, and ultimately, your life will become heaven. Our universe, the days and nights, the seasons, the blooming of flowers, everything changes to become new and better versions of themselves.

We often hesitate, but I believe change is necessary for good. Actively choosing to improve lets us grow and help others, too.

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