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How To Get More Guys To Approach You
I know the movies told you that ‘One day your Prince will come!’ So when you’re sitting alone at a bar, no one is coming up to speak to you and you're getting no matches on Tinder, this can all feel mortally disappointing.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
Perfect Text To Send Your Ex
Girl … if you’re asking this question we need to get you back on the right track. I understand how hard break ups can be, particularly that painful first six to eight weeks when your life has been turned upside down and you’re dealing with the grief over someone who has disappeared from your life. It can be natural to try and fill the space he left by stalking him via social media hatching plans to get him back.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
Importance of Sexual Communication
You may not agree with me, but I think that for some time now there has been much too much emphasis placed on the sexual needs of women and not nearly enough on the sexual problems of men.
By Lenny Legman9 years ago in Filthy
How Do You Know If She Likes You?
This is another one of those ‘if you’re asking the question you’re already losing’ questions. I don’t want you to spend another day stuck in your head, thinking about whether she likes you rather than asking her out in real life.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
What to Say if You Don’t Want Commitment
All men want to play the field and all women want marriage and babies, right? Wrong. Assumptions are one of the ‘fun destroyers’ of dating and relationships. So if you’re a man (or a woman) and you’ve decided commitment isn’t for you–at least right now–don’t assume this is going to be a major bombshell for whoever you’re dating.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
What Do You Call Your Live-In Lover?
Lover? Boyfriend? Par amour? Fiancé? Baby? Dependent? Consort? Sweetheart? Honey? Roommate? If he’s not your husband and you’re living together, he’s your…? You’re his…?
By Emily McCay9 years ago in Filthy
Dating Rules of Engagement
I was once blind but now I see. Could it really be THAT simple? I talk about “a light going off” all of the time when I teach yoga. That ahhhh - now I get it feeling. And now I get it. I like rules and dating rules of engagement should be no exception. What I have refused to do, be, or become one of those women who play games. But that’s the secret if you want to get married according to All the Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. They don’t say to lie or be a bitch, you can be you, but you don’t have to give so much so fast. This makes sense. But this is not the epiphany moment for me. A man says he doesn’t like games or bitchy women and this can be perfectly true, but what he fails to tell you (of course he’s not going to make it easy on you, why would he?) is that he wants the chase, the challenge, to win YOU.
By Kim Stetz9 years ago in Filthy
Impotent With His Wife
Patrick, a 29-year-old physician, has been married for three years; and already he is losing desire for his exceptionally good-looking 24-year-old wife. For the several months that they lived together before marriage, they’ve had sex two or three times, almost every day of the week. Honeymoon stage if I do say so myself. For the first year after marrying, despite his busy schedule at the hospital where he was taking his residency in pediatrics, they almost kept up this pace. But then Patrick began having trouble ejaculating, and would sometimes have to pursue active intercourse for 45 minutes.
By Dr. Harmon Love9 years ago in Filthy
How to Be Better in Bed - A Porn Star's Advice
Kind of a click baity title because I know that everyone, no matter how awesome you think you are at sex, wants to be better. Just double check there isn’t anything they missed off the old check list. I’ve had a lot of sex. It is fair to say I have had more sex and more sexual partners, both male and female, then most humans have in their life time. Yes, I do porn and a lot of those sexual partners were purely for on screen satisfaction, but shooting porn has taught me more about sex than any sex ed class or one night stand ever could.
By Samantha Bentley9 years ago in Filthy
Treating Sexual Paranoia
Though many of our parents' and grandparents' sex fears hardly affect us any longer, love and sex continue to be uppermost among the anxieties revealed in clinical consultation. Few still think that we will drive ourselves to the loony bin by masturbating. Not many lie awake nights worrying about the possible horrors of syphilis, illegitimate pregnancy, or abortion. Even regular run-of-the-mill thoughts of participation in acts of fornication and adultery have largely ceased to make us prepare ourselves for the fires of hell. Old sex fears have virtually vanished. This is not to say that sex education conquers all, for every contemporary sex survey conclusively proves that erotic ignorance is still widespread. But the worst mass misinformation seems now to be over. Only those adults who cannot or will not read seem to be as sorely ignorant as were their not-so-distant ancestors.
By Dr. Harmon Love9 years ago in Filthy
Stripper Problems
Since everyone seemed to absorb so much enjoyment from my 'Pornstar Problems’ I thought I would continue the theme. Shortly prior to taking my clothes off on camera, I took my clothes off on stage… and on the laps of strangers. Stripping was my initial introduction into the sex industry, and I have to admit, I fucking loved it. I still miss it. Every time I walk down Shoreditch High Street in East London, I’m filled with sadness that The White Horse, my favourite strip joint to work in, is now closed due to gentrification meaning they could not afford the rent. I am waiting for it to be turned into some sort of snooty elitist hipster pizza place or coffee bar with one solitary table inside, with some off hand, try to be cool reference to how it once was a strip club.
By Samantha Bentley9 years ago in Filthy
Sexual Boredom Advice
When passion wanes and love lives on, you have reached the sexual boredom phase. Most intimate relationships begin with the rare propinquity that makes it possible for a man and a woman to take the first difficult steps toward joining their lives. It is sexual exaltation—not a shared interest in Chinese cooking or tennis or foreign travel—that makes pleasure out of the hard work of accommodating oneself to the needs and idiosyncrasies of another adult. When this exaltation wanes we often seek out guidance from others. My advice? Seek advice and guidance from sexual therapists, not your mom or dad.
By Lizzie Boudoir9 years ago in Filthy